I don’t know why, but every time I hear someone say “I am marrying my best friend” I want to gag. That sounds a little harsh, really I just feel sad for those people. It just is hard for me to understand when I seriously have the bestest best friend.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband, we are friends, we hang out ALL the time & I enjoy it, but he is definitely not my “best” friend. I need someone outside of my marriage to click with. I need another person in my life who constantly has my back & supports me no matter what. Someone else who helps me be the best person I can be.
I am lucky enough to have “that” person. Her name is Allie. We have been best friends since senior year of highschool. (That is going on 12 + years) We got married 3 months apart, each standing as each others maid-of-honor. We had our adorable boys exactly 10 weeks apart. We both consistently get each other because we are both in similar places in our lives.
Allie gives me the greatest advice. She has no problem telling me I am wrong, but does it in away that is so kind. We have different views on things (mostly parenting) & I love it. It allows me to think in new ways & approach things differently. We always respect, support each other, no matter what.
One of my favorite things about our relationship is that we still have good old fashioned sleepovers. We will crack open a bottle of wine, sit back, watch crappy TV, & seriously talk the night away. I can really just be myself & when I bitch about things like mom guilt or periods, she really does know what I am talking about.
I talk to Allie all the time, we get our nails done together, do playdates, happy hour, the list goes on & on. Sadly this is going to change drastically in a few days. Allie and her family are moving to Michigan. Thankfully we live in a world with technology & we will stay connected. Plus the plane tickets are already bought for spring break.
But it still really sucks.
I hope Rowan gets to experience a friendship likes our someday. (Maybe it will be Max.) My husband has a best friend too, it’s NOT me. It makes our relationship better to have another outlet, someone else to talk to. I really don’t know what either of us would do without our “other” person. I know I don’t know what I would do with out her.