My Husband is NOT my Best Friend

I don’t know why, but every time I hear someone say “I am marrying my best friend” I want to gag. That sounds a little harsh, really I just feel sad for those people. It just is hard for me to understand when I seriously have the bestest best friend.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband, we are friends, we hang out ALL the time & I enjoy it, but he is definitely not my “best” friend. I need someone outside of my marriage to click with. I need another person in my life who constantly has my back & supports me no matter what. Someone else who helps me be the best person I can be.

I am lucky enough to have “that” person. Her name is Allie. We have been best friends since senior year of highschool. (That is going on 12 + years) We got married 3 months apart, each standing as each others maid-of-honor. We had our adorable boys exactly 10 weeks apart. We both consistently get each other because we are both in similar places in our lives.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Tee Shirt: Groceries, Opitz for $5, Tank Top: LOFT, from thrift store for $6, Jeans: J Brand, from Opitz for $8.60 (originally $180)

Allie gives me the greatest advice. She has no problem telling me I am wrong, but does it in away that is so kind. We have different views on things (mostly parenting) & I love it. It allows me to think in new ways & approach things differently. We always respect, support each other, no matter what.

Dress: Show Me Your Mumu for $168, Shoes: Sanita, from thrift store in Montana for $18

One of my favorite things about our relationship is that we still have good old fashioned sleepovers. We will crack open a bottle of wine, sit back, watch crappy TV, & seriously talk the night away. I can really just be myself & when I bitch about things like mom guilt or periods, she really does know what I am talking about.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Dress: Alice+Olivia, from Opitz for $32 (originally $499)

I talk to Allie all the time, we get our nails done together, do playdates, happy hour, the list goes on & on. Sadly this is going to change drastically in a few days. Allie and her family are moving to Michigan. Thankfully we live in a world with technology & we will stay connected. Plus the plane tickets are already bought for spring break.

But it still really sucks.

I hope Rowan gets to experience a friendship likes our someday. (Maybe it will be Max.) My husband has a best friend too, it’s NOT me. It makes our relationship better to have another outlet, someone else to talk to. I really don’t know what either of us would do without our “other” person. I know I don’t know what I would do with out her.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Dress: K, from Target for $7

10 thoughts on “My Husband is NOT my Best Friend

  1. 3C Style says:

    Ooh, I do feel the same. We do need friends outside the marriage to click with. I enjoyed reading you very much. Keep up the good work. -Dominique (married for 15 years and mom of two, a boy and a girl).

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