Mom Style …say Yes to new trends

Sometimes I feel that just because I am a mom that I should dress a certain way. That there are these unspoken rules about what is & isn’t exceptable to wear. That you need to cut your long locks & have a “mom” haircut.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Shirt: Free People, from Opitz for $10, Bandana: from Goodwill for $1.50

Obviously, I think this is ridiculous. Just because you’re a mother or older doesn’t mean you have to stop following fashion trends.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Jacket: Bagetelle, from Opitz for $32, Body Suit: Xhiliration, from Target for $12, Jeans: Frame, from Opitz $60, Shirt: Velvet, borrowed from husband, Shoes: Splendid, from Opitz for $32

Don’t get me wrong, I still can get a bit self-conscious about trying new things. Thinking “Do I look like I am 12?” “Can I really pull this off? “I did wear this when I was 12.” The truth is I need to shut down those thoughts. Every single time I try out a new style, step out of my comfort zone, I am always complimented. If that’s not saying keep doing you, I don’t know what is.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Sweater: Bishop + Young, from Hope Chest for $12, Tank Top: H by Borefaux, from Opitz for $6, Jeans: Mossimo, from Goodwill for $4, Shoes: Jessica Simpson, from Opitz for $30, Hat: Target, from Goodwill for $5

The key to trying new trends is really just to try it. If you want to wear something new, do it. Find what you love about that style or outfit & chose the main thing & implement into your daily look.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Jacket: Bagatelle, from Opitz for $32, Shirt: Guess, from Opitz for $16, Jeans: J Crew, from Goodwill for $8, Shoes: Splendid, from Opitz for $32

For example I was LOVING the choker trend with a tight bodysuit. I was a little nervous about trying both. So I decided to first try the choker. I was a little nervous, because I definitely was wearing a choker in my 5th grade yearbook photo. I didn’t want to look like I was trying to be in elementary school again. I really did love it though. So I bought one. (& since then I have bought 5 more) I tried it with a simple outfit that I felt confident in. Then the next time I tried it with a bodysuit. Baby steps.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Body Suit: Xhiliration, from Target $12, Sweater: Kensie, from Goodwill for $5, Jeans: Mossimo, from Goodwill for $6, Shoes: Rebel, from Goodwill for $5

So next time your thinking that I can’t wear that. Stop. Put it back on. & Rock it. 

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Jacket: Gap, from Goodwill $5, Tank Top: Free People, from Opitz for $10, Jeans: Frame, from Opitz $60, Shoes: Mossimo, from thrift store $5, Bandana: from Goodwill for $1.50


A Day at the Farm

When my good SAHM & fellow blogger friend Hilary suggested going to Gale Woods Farm over MEA I couldn’t say no.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Sweater: Loft for $4.98, Jeans: Old Navy for $18, Shoes: Vans, from DSW for $45, Purse: Vintage Coach, from Goodwill for $12

Rowan loves, loves, LOVES all animals so I knew it was a must. We have been to Gale Woods Farm a few times before, but only in the spring to see the baby animals, & actually our wedding reception was here. So we familiar with this place.

Gale Woods is amazing. I really believe that you need to go out & explore the world with your children. They need that hands on experience to learn & grow. That exactly what Gale Woods Farm does.

We started the day with making bracelets from the wool of the sheep. We then got to help make carrot fritters & apple cider. Rowan is quite a picky eater, but gobbled up these carrot fritters. It’s going to be my new way to get veggies in his diet. (Recipe at bottom of page)  The kids got to practice milking a fake cow. Rowan practically lives off milk so he was quite excited to try it out.

We then ventured outside to visit all the animals. This is was what makes parenting the best. Seeing their little faces gleam with excitement. Life has always been good, but seeing it through their eyes is a whole new level.

After smothering the sheep with love we headed to the garden. There they got to shovel, pick weeds, eat raspberries & carrots. They got to be little gardeners. This made me realize that we NEED a real garden next year, & that can be one of Rowans jobs around the house. (Yes, Rowan is 2 & has chores)

We ended our trip at the farm learning about bees & other insects. I highly recommend Gale Woods Farm for your next family outing. It was $7 a person (2 & older) with a 20% discount for 4 or more.

After the farm we headed to Dakota Junction for lunch. This place is my favorite it town, but it was perfect for today. They get produce & meat from Gale Woods Farm. It really was a farm to table experience.

Zenni Optical … the place to get glasses

When this little blue package arrives in my mail box I can hardly contain my excitment. I love my glasses & the ONLY place I buy glasses & sunglasses is from Zenni Optical. They are affordable & so stylish that I can get many pairs to match my many outfits.

I ordered 3 pairs of glasses this time, the total for all 3 glasses was $81.65. I just really can’t get over the price & quality. The best part is I don’t feel guilty at all.

The first pair I wanted was a fun neutral color. I already own a pink pair that matches my skin really well, but wanted something to stand out a bit more. I went with this purple pair, they are exactly what I wanted. The total for these glasses was $30.90.

Glasses: Zenni Optical #7810017

The next pair I wanted was classic nerd glasses. This pair was the cheapest & my favorite by far at $14.90.

Glasses: Zenni Optical #125525

The last pair I wanted was just a classic pair of glasses. I wanted something that would match anything & not hide my face. I loved this pair for $30.90.

Glasses: Zenni Optical #324114

If your in the need of glasses, I highly recommend Zenni Optical. You can’t beat the price & trends.

I also love that you can upload your own picture & try on the glasses that way. I personally don’t use this feature, but my husband has.

All you need to do is click on the try on button, it will bring you to this page. From here you click on the person icon & upload your own picture!

So get shopping, all you need is your perscription.

Change of Plans …

This Saturday I had plans to go the Sever’s Corn Maze with my dearest college friend, but of course it rained & we had to change plans. Melissa suggested going to Mall of America, I shot that down right away.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Sweater: Bishop + Young, from Hope Chest for $12, Tank Top: H by Borefaux, from Opitz for $6, Jeans: Mossimo, from Goodwill for $4, Shoes: Jessica Simpson, from Opitz for $30, Hat: Target, from Goodwill for $5

“Hell NO! I don’t go to the MOA.” I stated. I hated it, the amount of people there literally scares me. I get super anxious just thinking about the MOA, but after trying to think up other places to go, I knew Melissa was right. This way we could eat & hang out for awhile.

We jumped right in the car & I could feel my stress level raising & it got to an all time high when it took FOREVER to find a parking spot. I expressed my fear to Tyler, & he reassured me that we got this. He told me he would be in charge of Rowan & he wouldn’t keep his eyes off of him so I could relax.

We found Melissa, Brady, & their adorable son Camden & headed to Cowboy Jacks for dinner. Going out to dinner in its self can be a disaster. We have found that we have turned into the parents we would never be. The parents that give their child an electronic so they can enjoy their dinner. Yep I do it! Thankfully this is the only time he uses it, this or long road trips.

So I knew dinner would be okay, but Cowboy Jacks went above & beyond. They sat us in our own private room with a couch/lounge area, a TV, it was perfect. We really got to enjoy each others company & a few drinks!

We then headed to Lego Land since it’s free. Rowan was having a great time until he noticed all the rides. He was no longer willing to sit & play with legos, he had to be on those rides.

Thankfully as we entered the park a man gave us his unused tickets, 57 tickets. That was the nicest thing ever, it really just made our night. We took turn going on rides with the boys. Camden even experienced his 1st rollercoaster. It was the perfect way to end the evening!

I couldn’t of asked for a better night. It was so great see my friend, relax, & have fun. I am so glad that I over came my fear, & didn’t allow my anxiety to hold me back. I am even more thankful for my husband, who reassured me. I need to do this more often, be spontaneous.

Dating … Don’t Ever Stop

I haven’t been married for very long, 4 years, but I already know for us, that dating is a must. Not other people, but each other. It is one of the best things we do for our marriage and family.

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After cooking dinner, cleaning the house, working all day, both of us are exhausted. Sometimes we are almost zombies going through the daily checklist of life. I hate it, but it’s true, there just isn’t enough hours in the day.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Shirt: Calvin Klein, from Opitz for $6

But this is exactly why we stop, slow down & date each other. We don’t necesarily go out either. (But we do love a night out) We put Rowan in bed by 7:30, 8 at the latest for this reason. We need “us” time. That leaves us with 2 hours to ourselves, 2 hours to reconnect. We might just watch a movie together, play a game, (we are huge game board fans) have a few drinks & just talk, or work on a house project together, but at least something together & even better if we are both disconnected from our phones.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Romper: Free People, from Opitz for $35

Our relationship needs to be a priority in order for it to work & dating my husband makes that easier. It makes us talk & be on the same page. It makes us want to have sex with each other & do it more frequently. It makes us laugh, but most of all it helps remind me why I fell in love with him. I just love being around him & hanging out. I never want to lose that or us. We will never stop dating. He is my forever date.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Shirt: Lovers + Friends, from T.J. Maxx for $6, Vest: Karen Kane, from Opitz for $20

 

Mom Guilt … 

Mom guilt is seriously the worst thing ever, this little voice in your head doubting your decisions & every move. Am I going out too much? Should my kid be potty trained by now? Is it to early for preschool? The list goes on & on.

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These little thoughts pop-up ALL the time. I find myself defending my choices, when I don’t need to. I also realize no one is judging me or telling me what I should be doing with my child. (Or at least not to my face.) So where does all this mom quilt come from? …

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SOCIAL MEDIA!

It’s the mom groups, the posts, or just the picture perfect family. They make us doubt ourselves. We get a little idea of what all these other mothers are doing & put unneeded pressure on ourselves.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Jacket: Xhiliration, from Target for $12, Tank Top: H by Bordeaux, from Opitz for $6, Jeans: Old Navy for $12, Boots: Hunter, gift

I realized this when a friend of mine said “I can’t be like you & go, go, go, your always out doing something with Rowan.” I was a bit shocked, because I was envious of this mother. She had her son enrolled in an elite spanish immersion daycare, they did tons of mommy & me classes, & her son ate anything! (My kids live off hotdogs.) They could go out to restaurants. She obviously didn’t know everything about me.

Yes, we go out all the time. We are either at the park, apple orchard, museum, some fair, because I suck as an at home mom. Literally if we were at home the T.V. would be on, I would be constantly picking up after my kid. (I hate messes & clutter.) It is so stressful. I don’t “live in the moment” at home, I wish I could. This is why my kid isn’t potty trained, I can’t stay at the house for more than a day. It sucks. I wish we could be at home more.

Romper: Old Navy for $8, Backpack: Vintage Coach, from thrift store for $12

The truth is we just don’t know everything about someone else. They don’t know everything about you, they don’t need to. You be you, & do what is best for you & YOUR family. Just because we see something on social media doesn’t mean that is the WHOLE picture. When that little voice pops up now, I just reassure myself over & over that I am doing the right thing. I am a great mom.

My Husband is NOT my Best Friend

I don’t know why, but every time I hear someone say “I am marrying my best friend” I want to gag. That sounds a little harsh, really I just feel sad for those people. It just is hard for me to understand when I seriously have the bestest best friend.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband, we are friends, we hang out ALL the time & I enjoy it, but he is definitely not my “best” friend. I need someone outside of my marriage to click with. I need another person in my life who constantly has my back & supports me no matter what. Someone else who helps me be the best person I can be.

I am lucky enough to have “that” person. Her name is Allie. We have been best friends since senior year of highschool. (That is going on 12 + years) We got married 3 months apart, each standing as each others maid-of-honor. We had our adorable boys exactly 10 weeks apart. We both consistently get each other because we are both in similar places in our lives.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Tee Shirt: Groceries, Opitz for $5, Tank Top: LOFT, from thrift store for $6, Jeans: J Brand, from Opitz for $8.60 (originally $180)

Allie gives me the greatest advice. She has no problem telling me I am wrong, but does it in away that is so kind. We have different views on things (mostly parenting) & I love it. It allows me to think in new ways & approach things differently. We always respect, support each other, no matter what.

Dress: Show Me Your Mumu for $168, Shoes: Sanita, from thrift store in Montana for $18

One of my favorite things about our relationship is that we still have good old fashioned sleepovers. We will crack open a bottle of wine, sit back, watch crappy TV, & seriously talk the night away. I can really just be myself & when I bitch about things like mom guilt or periods, she really does know what I am talking about.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Dress: Alice+Olivia, from Opitz for $32 (originally $499)

I talk to Allie all the time, we get our nails done together, do playdates, happy hour, the list goes on & on. Sadly this is going to change drastically in a few days. Allie and her family are moving to Michigan. Thankfully we live in a world with technology & we will stay connected. Plus the plane tickets are already bought for spring break.

But it still really sucks.

I hope Rowan gets to experience a friendship likes our someday. (Maybe it will be Max.) My husband has a best friend too, it’s NOT me. It makes our relationship better to have another outlet, someone else to talk to. I really don’t know what either of us would do without our “other” person. I know I don’t know what I would do with out her.

Glasses: Zenni Optical, Dress: K, from Target for $7